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Why These Black Men Don't Date Black Women | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

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Before the women of the House of Healing attend a cocktail party, three of the men who will be there meet with Iyanla to talk about why they avoid dating within their race. Watch as the men explain themselves with unflinching honesty. For more on #FIXMYLIFE, visit http://bit.ly/1pqTI5s Find OWN on TV at http://www.oprah.com/FindOWN #OWNTV #FIXMYLIFE #IyanlaVanzant SUBSCRIBE: http://bit.ly/1vqD1PN Download the Watch OWN App: http://bit.ly/2hr1nX2 About Iyanla: Fix My Life: In the popular self-help series, “Iyanla: Fix My Life”, bestselling author, spiritual life coach and television host Iyanla Vanzant goes behind closed doors to help people whose relationships and lives have broken down. About OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network is the first and only network named for, and inspired by, a single iconic leader. Oprah Winfrey's heart and creative instincts inform the brand -- and the magnetism of the channel. Winfrey provides leadership in programming and attracts superstar talent to join her in primetime, building a global community of like-minded viewers and leading that community to connect on social media and beyond. OWN is a singular destination on cable. Depth with edge. Heart. Star power. Connection. And endless possibilities. Discover OWN TV: Find OWN on your TV!: http://bit.ly/1wJ0ugI Our Fantastic Lineup: http://bit.ly/1qMi2jE Connect with OWN Online: Visit the OWN WEBSITE: http://bit.ly/1qMi2jE Like OWN on FACEBOOK: http://on.fb.me/1AXYujp Follow OWN on TWITTER: http://bit.ly/1sJin8Y Follow OWN on INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/LnqzMz Follow OWN on PINTEREST: http://bit.ly/2dvfPeN Why These Black Men Don't Date Black Women | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network http://www.youtube.com/user/OWN
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mz rozzy81 (10 minutes ago)
That's their opinion...
Asa Harvey (1 hour ago)
Funny thing is these guys are right
Kernel TV (12 hours ago)
We appreciate you my sister keep doing what you’re doing.
bigbaba1111 (16 hours ago)
date anyone you like as long as its not a feminist. they will ruin you guys.
Goodnight Robichaux (17 hours ago)
Beta's....one is dressed for shucking and jiving (overalls). One is gay. One will be falsely accused of rape by a non black woman and beg for our support.......js
Betty Cooper (17 hours ago)
Who cares if he don't date black women? His mama blacker,,,, Lmfao🌚😂😂😂
Bobbie Jackson (19 hours ago)
Ladies they had a black mom that pushed out carried them for 9 mts geld them and fed them gave them everything she had did everything she could beat that but when she had to screamed when she had to after sending that black mother though so much looking at the mean expressing on her face that they cause now n their head white is better so now the white women have to finish the job that mom started God Bless
Kerry Wilson (20 hours ago)
I would date any of these fellas. 🙂
Jayy Ahmad (1 day ago)
Because of these men. Black women are going to say the whole race of black men don’t love or support them and that’s not true at all 🤦🏾‍♂️💯
Duece Momm (1 day ago)
These are Clowns 🤡 Not MEN. These men are making excuses.
Keenan Thomas (1 day ago)
Okay, people spat on you when you were 13, how did that MAKE you feel? And you CHOSE to that feeling.
B K (1 day ago)
Bro you have on a button up, overalls AND a Kango hat. FOOL you are weird 😂😂😂😂😂
lilmanjp (1 day ago)
A lot of self-hate, i get the liking of other races Trust I was brought up in America, but its self hatr
Lil buTt (1 day ago)
Don't want to date strong woman, but want them to March beside you.
I see why they are single. Ain't nobody got time for this 😒
OZEN WATERS (2 days ago)
We are not supposed to be in church,the Bible explains it . She is off
nathan harrid (2 days ago)
She don't know all black woman
Tatiana Miller (2 days ago)
I understand what they are saying & what she's saying
Jason Maddox (2 days ago)
The victim card got pulled real quick by the negro woman 🤦‍♂️🙄
nasachusetts (2 days ago)
So now we know why they date outside their race.
Mephisto Memes (3 days ago)
You don’t get to choose what you feel
Taylor Reed (3 days ago)
I’m okay with them not wanting to date or have anything to do with black women. just don’t come to us when your getting harassed and beat down by cops ❤️since we are all being judged as a whole 👌🏾👎🏾
Jack Colebank (3 days ago)
Just like a black woman ,im going to make you see we aren't mad!!!!!
Jahmila Rosario (3 days ago)
Iyanla....another brooklyn baddie
MA WILLIAMS (3 days ago)
Oh god here we go I'm out off here .
Bart Starr (3 days ago)
Because they look and act like Iylana.
A Rose (3 days ago)
If they are attracting the same type of woman it’s something in them that gives an “apply here” sign. They should examine themselves. Instead of doing what we as black people repeatedly wish SOME people in the world wouldn’t do to us. Stereo-type.
Gabrielle Johnson (3 days ago)
Why is he dresses like a farmer
WeMi Ci (4 days ago)
That dude with four foot hair says he’s celibate. It’s not self-imposed, who wants to be with a guy that’s pining to be a female. Dude has a weave. And pigtails on top of that.
Jackie Morrow (4 days ago)
In the grand scheme of things,who cares???
Arts Crafts (4 days ago)
How can any1 make u feel like that. Wel ppl can make you feel good bad. . That's the truth
Rick Jamez Jr (4 days ago)
There are maybe 10% of black women who deserve to be treated like queens, but lets be honest, most yall hoes been ran through nd gt thot-like tendencies. We remember what happened in highschool/college 🤣🤣
John Wick Jr (4 days ago)
Dated nun but black women all my life nd only had one who i can say was actually worth striving, sacrificing, and providing for. Unfortunately by the time i met her i was too on guard and biased to do right by her. Its like god put me through a series of trials in the form of jezebels nd harlots so id appreciate a real woman when i was blessed with one, but i was too weak to get over my fear of dissapointment based on past experiences, and ended up doing wrong by her. Black queens do exist but they are far and few 😔😔
yamin ceja (4 days ago)
Wow very powerful massage 😢😢😢
teshabeauty79 (4 days ago)
Demetrius King (4 days ago)
Dude said "stay in a woman's place." Lol, damn. But let's see, though, SOME (not all) of them are, at least in my past experiences: Rude, Combative, Judgmental, Abrasive, Snobby, Snotty, Stubborn, Notorious for being violent, Loud, and Stuck-up. Who wants that in 2019?
Sandra Last (4 days ago)
Black women really can’t talk because Black women talk down on Black men ALL THE TIME so what is the difference?
Andrea Bryant (4 days ago)
That got everything to do with who you are today.
Shxy Bxby (4 days ago)
So they like submissive “yes sir” women... ? Ok disgusting .. but ok I guess
Asia Delilah (4 days ago)
TBH i agree with the men, i feel like that too black men dont like me because i talk white.? or things like that etc.
Brown Suga43 (4 days ago)
This is sad.. I don’t think these men understand the abuse black women have suffered for many years.. All we want is to be loved, respected, and heard.. they need to understand that we have the same insecurities they have we’re just more vocal ..it’s cruel to say you don’t want to date black women when all you gotta do is follow your heart and find a woman that makes you happy without putting black women down ALL of the time... I’m ashamed that it has come to such disrespect from the men who should be lifting us up smh
GiftedHands (4 days ago)
These comments though 😩💕
Learn to die (4 days ago)
Who wants to get married to a generation of competitors. Guess what competition, getting pregnant. At 17 every black hoe got a baby. Social media students
TheMoMonaitor (5 days ago)
Everyone saying ‘you can like anyone but don’t talk down’ blah blah blah it’s obviously a big enough issue for the community to always be asking this So let them debate
Paris Robinson (5 days ago)
Cuz they some neeeegassssss
Sashaye Brewer (5 days ago)
Let me tell you why I don't date black men😂
Oya Qhoze (5 days ago)
This Female Is Only About Her! F That Nut!
Afro zekepick (5 days ago)
I'm Black and I like Black Woman. The reason why you see other Black Men with White Women is because they have some sort of sexual fetish on White Women.
tutumiles1 (5 days ago)
When oh when will we stop this silliness!! To categorize any woman is simply false. There is a black woman to meet any man’s need. That said, I don’t begrudge a persons reason for dating any woman but let’s stop blaming black women for a choice you brothers have made. You men sound ridiculous and spoiled by a perception. All women have strengths and weaknesses (as we all do) but must be judged singularly. It’s arrogant bs to hold these views and cause unnecessary rifts with black women. Grow up fellows and get informed. You need not put down a black woman because you want to date a white woman.
HollyWood Batton (5 days ago)
Seems like our black men believe stepping out of their race will bring them a complacent woman. This IS NOT the case. Stop looking for a doormat and accept a real woman has a mind and should be able to express herself to her partner.
stephanie timothy (5 days ago)
No one: That guy: I traveled alot as a kid so talented musically
Jess G (5 days ago)
So let me get this straight rather than these guys deal with their issues they put the blame on something else? Yeah these guys are at the perfect man to be with....NOT. these men have their own issues that they themselves have not dealt with so they need to check that before they try checking anything else
Porshi Johnson (6 days ago)
These men are weak
Tamar case dixon (6 days ago)
When men are insecure it blames everything and everyone else.
centellvasilopoulos (6 days ago)
She is so defensive when they are just telling their truth. I feel the same way about MOST black men. I am a very artisty person and I've had the privilege to travel around the world and in school, I was teased for liking "white music", my choice of clothing and who I surrounded myself with. There is an issue in the black community with anger and narrow minds.
Hermelinda Cedillo (6 days ago)
All races have same issues,not just black women.
Ray Monde (6 days ago)
Stay in a woman’s place? Where would that be Bo? I’m curious let me know
Paulos Kidane (6 days ago)
This black witch just reinforces the negative stereotypes people have of black women. Smh!
Evelyn Wright (7 days ago)
Three weak men who cannot handle a Queen. You are all lacking self love - respect - great appreciation for the women who birthed you too. You are damaged and brain washed beyond repair. You will not be missed!
C o (7 days ago)
if this is what i had to choose from , i'd rather look to another race of men. this is trash.
Monica Thomas (7 days ago)
Becky can have these 3 idiots
more smucky (7 days ago)
Black woman are not angry there are disappointed and so-called black men like these who know the struggle or who should know the struggle more than anyone constantly disrespecting and causing confusion fact most Brown women is not Angry you get your occasional few just like in every race... We are naturally passionate people and more accepting and forgiving that others... So how can you mistake passion for anger??!!! Stop running with the stereotypes about your own people it's sickening and overrated and just another brainwashing method.. if anything that would be something to get angry about A the lies use to manipulate and Brian washing the mass about they self and then taking it and running around with it like it's true and the lack of respect and the oppression and many other things to be mad as you say then a black man with a non Afro-American woman come on now🤦🏾‍♀️😂
Munner Abdi (7 days ago)
Self hating black people!!!
Jamaican Egyptian (7 days ago)
Johhny King (8 days ago)
It's the black females with fake hair BT2000 you must worry about, black woman of the NATION OF ISLAM are sweet and they are like flower's
sakinahflowersEl (8 days ago)
"IF NO OTHER BLACK WOMEN HAS SAID THIS LET ME SAY IT, !! WE DONT CARE IF YOUR A BLACK MAN AND DONT WANT TO DATE OR MARRY A BLACK WOMEN. WE DONT CARE", Stop comparing us to white women, there is no comparison. If you want to be with a white women stop making it our fault and just say you want to be w/ a white women dont say well "black women think I'm weird", when your sitting up in overalls, a pink plaid shirt, and a textured burgundy kango hat😏 they should have said you look slow. When was the last time you've seen anybody, no matter what race wear overalls??. The truth is you dont know how to dress to attract the type of black women you want so when you get rejected by the type of black women you want you try to throw all of us under the bus, and with that type of mindset, we as a community of black women are happy to turn the other cheek. I hope black men dont think we lose sleep b/c of their issue b/c we absolutely dont. Sorry not sorry
levi ellerbe (8 days ago)
Here is the truth. Most black woman dont show interest in guys and wait for you to come to you and than pick thugs guys. If every guys say it. It must be true and data show it. So before you come prove your point
Brenda Segovia (8 days ago)
Im Mexican American and I dont date my race. Why is this lady trying to change who they decide to be attracted to..
SummerTyme Fly (8 days ago)
Uppity negros
Meet The Loves (8 days ago)
I just can’t see myself dating/marrying a white man.....many many reasons He will never understand where I’m coming from! That’s a problem already itself.
marcus peters (9 days ago)
She will never break the Myth
Santilla V. (9 days ago)
🙄 They’re whack as hell w/ issues from their childhood.
Lilly Brown (9 days ago)
Stay in a woman's place he says ... (Whilst looking like the bk end of a mole rat foetus)
Al Connolly (9 days ago)
well it's pretty obvious why black men today don't date a lot of black women .For the same reason a lot of white men and other men's of other races don't date black women .because black women today are a little bit stupid and I don't mean that in the IQ sense. they tend to open their mouth and prove men right not just black men or what they know about black women but what they know about women. When a black woman on a reality show or in real life once an expensive dress or wedding gown or something else in someone says that's expensive and she says well he go'n-hav to get a sec job den or you hear a black woman say he can give me all the things that you can't you didn't have enough money to keep me interested you a loser and a dead beat . Or when a man gives anyone a compliment by the way they dress but the way they smell and they're like well thanks I farted well I don't need no validation from no man . What man of any ethnic background wants to take that kind of personality. The fact is all women of all colors think that way it's just for whatever reason black women open their mouth and prove man right they want everything from a man with no intention of giving him anything in return not kindness not gratitude much less affection.but the thing that this woman in this video needs to understand is that she's from a much different generation of women back when chivalry did exist and that's what a lot of women mothers and grandmothers from decades ago need to understand women today act the way they do pick a society not just in this nation but most countries allow them and give them the tools they need to make men's lives a living hell "legally" you've heard of men going their own way well I can't wait to hear about black men going their own way there's plenty of room for every man
Rahul Kemp (9 days ago)
Jamar Murphy (9 days ago)
Oh lord. They embarrass black men. I love black women. I love how strong minded black women are. Black women are Queens.
monica parker (6 days ago)
Excuses! Don't tear down black women because of your own low self esteem
Corey Holloway (4 days ago)
Blackwomen have lot of excuse
Corey Holloway (4 days ago)
Blackwomen have low-self
su wi (10 days ago)
my beautiful black people. Let me warn you, do not move into their suburbs. White people are weird AFFFF. You will be watched, spied on and listened to. Whites live in their homes like caves.literally
Liz D (10 days ago)
Oh please😩
Cosmo Niq Beauty (10 days ago)
Keith Koster (10 days ago)
Not all, not all, not all but most black woman are angry. Stay away!
Ember Smith (10 days ago)
They like white women because of their ancient past when melinated men were deceived by cursed women stripped of their melanin by Isis. The cursed women used magic and makeup to disguise their truth and thus became the downfall of melinated peoples.
Little Foot (10 days ago)
She asked "How can anybody can make you feel anything "? I could have sworn that Women are the center of Emotion , so he cant have no feelings towards something ? Can someone help this make sense?🤤
Gods Daughter (11 days ago)
3 weak black men.They can't handle a strong black woman. Point blank period.
Benny Brown (3 days ago)
Why should u handle a black woman..are they dogs to handle?
Corey Holloway (4 days ago)
Blackwomen handle the truth
Chammie pebby (11 days ago)
I agree somewhat with what these black men are saying....I'm a black woman from London in the UK and my partner is white Romanian....I dont date black men more and I never will again.
Raphsody86 (11 days ago)
justicelyric (11 days ago)
let them date who they want period...it’s their own opinion 🤷‍♀️
Chammie pebby (11 days ago)
Thank you.......
Kara Jones (11 days ago)
When u get accused of rape u will change your damn tune u think u would look better with a noose around your neck u guys better wake up
sherma williams (11 days ago)
These brothers confused as hell
Billy Okode (11 days ago)
Black women emasculate men🇰🇪
Mr. RACECAR (11 days ago)
You know.... As a BMI'm at the point of my of my life where I just don't care for BW anymore. They drug me through enough hell.. Almost to the point of setting me up to be killed (still thank my homie to this day for letting me know). But I tried my chance, tried to be supportive, tried to the good and loyal man, yet that got me nowhere with them or any other girls. I've lost faith when I was only 19. Only black women I care about are the ones in my family. But I don't hate them as a collective, I still have black female friends. But I still keep my gaurd up and my eyes open around them. But though I don't hate them, I'm just done. They're free to do whatever they want. I don't care anymore. I'm all for myself and family. Besides I have automotive college and 2 jobs + an HVAC apprenticeship on the side to worry about their or anyone else outside of my family's well being.
Chammie pebby (11 days ago)
I kinda agree with what your saying I'm a black woman and I've given o Up on black men....my bf is white....white men dont behave as black men do.......people are free to date who they wish.
Kim mie (11 days ago)
They’re weak.
Wholesaler Gal (11 days ago)
Black women and black men want the samething experiences child please
Judy Pratcher (11 days ago)
Queen of subliminal shade! 😁 tell them 😜
Baton Rouge Bell'ah (11 days ago)
Looks like they really prefer black men 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️
verrrr1 (9 days ago)
Whitney Rideout (11 days ago)
Omg they arent allowed to have preferences? Why is this even a show
Lisa lisa (11 days ago)
Fellows, I have to check you on this you guys do not sound very knowledgeable when it comes to women nor do you know how to communicate properly with them. Please remember that your mother's and grandmother's are black women all black women are not the same should not be treated the same. It is truly unfair to judge or women by a few because there's some fantastic intelligent and very knowledgeable black women out there that you could possibly make a life with and be happy but when you Quadra them down to a scant few you defeat your purpose. You are missing out. Black women come in all shapes sizes and colors but it does not dictate the attitudes so do not judge a book by its cover.
Guess what....why waste time convincing them. Us confident black women don’t want a black man that doesn’t want us. Period. Let them do what they want. It doesn’t make me any difference.🤷🏾‍♀️
Daniel Al (12 days ago)
Women.. I don't watch Game of Throne because I don't care,so what are you doing here watching the video if you don't care about these men??

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